Homesickness

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Permalink Reply by NavyDads Co-Admin, Jim on January 20, 2012 at 1:57pm

Best thing is for her to keep busy. There is always cleaning to do, standing watch, etc. This is the hard part when boot camp is over, A school is over and the intensity level drops a little. Once she gets to her duty station, it will change for her. Dare I say she could even volunteer for extra duties to keep her focus.

This is not uncommon to be on hold after A school. This is a time of year when schools are a little backed up from the holidays. Just tell her to hang in there, be patient and things will eventually fall into place.

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Permalink Reply by Tom L on January 20, 2012 at 2:41pm

Thanks Jim...just feel helpless as a dad! I'll pass your suggestions along.....

 

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Permalink Reply by H Caouette on January 20, 2012 at 4:35pm

Mine will be going through the same thing soon. More, I've personally gone through it myself. Temporary Assigned Duty really sucks.

I suspect that she'll do a lot better once she's assigned to a permanent duty station where there is a demanding daily routine and where the friendships you establish are longer lasting. Believe it or not, there will come a point where being away from the Navy is the culture shock.

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Permalink Reply by NavyDads Co-Admin, Jim on January 20, 2012 at 4:46pm

Tom, I most certainly understand the helpless feeling. It's really hard to let go. I think it's harder though when it's your little girl. I'm lucky in that we were ready for our son to leave the nest. He was ready too and this was a perfect fit.

Just remember the old saying, "hurry up and wait."

The more time she's in, the easier it will get. H Caouette said it best. HOOYAH!

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Permalink Reply by Tom L on January 21, 2012 at 9:12am

   She talked to the Chaplain and got some much needed reassurance! She worked out  and then spent the day destroying old evidence for NCIS.....she sounds better...but I'm worried about her....just want her to get back in a training cycle and busy...the rest will take care of itself...I hope!

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Permalink Reply by NavyDads Admin (Paul) on January 21, 2012 at 10:04am

it goes back to at lease the 12th century, but the old saying " idle hands are the devil's workshop" hold true.....the more she does and the busier she is the less time she'll have to dwell on things like home.....

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Permalink Reply by Tom L on January 21, 2012 at 10:31am

Amen...Paul...I think that she will be classing up by the end of the month...and will have her hands full...just have to get her to that point with support from Mom and Dad and her shipmates....Sometimes I think that it is just as hard a job at home as it is on base......!

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Permalink Reply by NavyDads Admin (Paul) on January 21, 2012 at 10:35am

That's one of the main reasons for NavyDads!!!  Navy parents....no, make that military parents in general, serve just as their offspring do and often us dads need info and support just as much as moms do!!!  The transitions between bootcamp and A-school, C-school and the fleet are tough...from a world where it is go-go-go for many hours a day to waiting and back again are trying times for all. 

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Permalink Reply by Tom L on January 21, 2012 at 10:52am

Make no mistake...this site has gotten me to this point with the info and support of fellow members. I've tried to return the favor whenever I can....it was just my time to draw on it. I will pass it forward when I can....and thanks to everyone for your help and support...:)

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Permalink Reply by Tom L on January 24, 2012 at 6:19pm

....classed up as of Monday....moving in a positive direction again!!!

 

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Permalink Reply by Tom L on February 3, 2012 at 9:59am

...just a followup....You folks were "deadon"! My daughter is finishing week 2 of ECS and it is like talking to a completely different person. I can sense the return of her enthusiasm as the pace picked up again. She is counting the days until graduation (2/17) and heading off to Portsmouth, Va. Thanks for everyone's support!

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