Navy Dads

so just a question, I know recruits can only send letters on Sundays and its my girlfriends 4 week at RTC, i got a lot of letters last week and i kept doing what she asked big and was to send letters and cards and pictures which i did. I mail a letter everyday so she can get mail almost everyday and try and keep her spirits. come home from work to nothing in my mail box from her and i did the math if im not wrong i should of gotten a letter from her or letter she may have written during the week when i talked to her on the phone she was given time to write besides Sunday but could only mail on Sundays.... i haven't asked her parents if they received anything i rather not. Is it possible that she may have gotten in trouble or her unit and they couldn't mail on Sundays or is that next to impossible? i made the mistake of sending her a very important letter in the wrong envelope. Ive also sent her extra stamps and an extra phone card for just in case. i just fell kinda lost and confused.

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simple reply.....they are busy almost every minute of every day....Sunday often used to do laundry and study instead of writing letters

i understand that went through the same thing with my brother when he was at basic training im not a stranger to that. there just something different about this i know my gf its not like her, when i got her first set of letters she was ready to come home after being stuck in Processing for an extra week.... but when she got my letter everything changed and they were able to call home and i was the only one that answered. I also feel like im the only one writing to her, i know her mom is but how often i have no idea. i dont know to me something isnt right

as a vet mom and a son that graduated two years ago heres what i got from him always always use plain white envelopes do not scribble anything on the outside sundays are for writing and at times the sunday gets taken away because someone screwed up and they go down as a team never solo! navy motto! :) but if your in a push div and only have 6wks to complete a 8wk course there goes your sundays! send nice photos only keep the private ones at home lol also send her a gallon size glad bag with a rubber band to keep all letters in an organized fashion so she can always pass inspection which is done often :) and please do not send any snacks etc... hope this helps i mailed my letters every other day with stamps quotes summary of his fav shows and what was going on in our hometown and family members so it felt like he was still home and man it was the hardest 8 wks for me but they flewwww by quickly :))))

she put hearts on my letters so on the back i started putting a smile face and i love you so when she would flip the letter and see i wrote on it. I stop for the next week and see what happens. after reading that i just fell bad now. Every letter for a week i wrote that on the back even the one i sent today had the small message. you could be right because all of her letters she would write at night and she sent them all at once. I dont know i just felt heart broken, and i know shes going through a hard time and from time to time i wish she never joined but I know shes making her future. I dont doubt she thinks the same thing i could tell she was crying when she wrote her letters. I try to keep my letter postive but i maily just write what went on that day and what i did and that i was thinking about her all day. I try to send her a card once a week. your right i know they are being pushed cause they spent an extra week in P days. and her first day of real training was on the 10th when she left for boot camp on may 27th

The navy will absolutely NOT mess with someone's mail (sending or receiving). It is a federal crime to do so.  However, the navy can do anything they want with a recruit's time.  She may have not had time or energy to write.  

That's what I thought Jim I just wasn't sure. I knew they couldn't tap with there mail I knew she just had to work a little bit harder when I sent the overnight one through

Cody. Our recruit has only sent one short letter so far in returned to our dozens, and it was like it was a gold bar came in the mail to her mom and me. We know from others what these recruits are going through. And we've heard that no news is actually good news, so do NOT feel the lack of letters is anything other than good news, that she's succeeding and getting over being homesick and applying herself to what she has to do to pass and graduate. This is definitely not the time to feel sorry for yourself or be selfish. SHE's the one going through hell right now. It's hard for you, sure, for her to be away, but put things in perspective. Every hour of their day is consumed at this point. Have a LOT of patience, and perseverance. And it might not be a bad time to work on improving your relationship with her mom! So hang in there. Focus on what she is going through, more than what you're going through, and you both will be fine. All your letters should be supportive, NEVER critical of her not writing you. Do this and she will thank you a LOT in a few weeks! 

For having loved ones away, it will be an emotional rollercoaster on both sides; however, you can be the up to her downs. Boot camp wasn't made to be a piece of cake and if you would like a feel of what she is going through each week, Navy Dads has this link which I perused often: http://www.navydads.com/forum/topics/navy-bootcamp-weekly-training .  The initial weeks for my sailor I would call it the Boot Camp Blues, but give it a few more weeks and it comes together for all of them because it will be ingrained that they need to work as a Division. In each of my letters that I sent, I always wrote that out: stronger as a division because they are in the Navy now and they need to work together. No need to imagine the worse or the what ifs, it will do nothing for you so keep on sending those positive letters and energy. It's wonderful that your gf has chosen to join the Navy, such a courageous decision.

That is the most important phrase you'll learn in the Navy- no news IS good news!  I don't want to "harsh anybody's mellow" here, but there are some fundamentals everyone has to remember.  This Navy journey is serious stuff- it's not college nor a fun camp.  The Navy is teaching these sailors to fight and survive....it's not a case of stories about a few sailors that go above and beyond...your sailors may, at any point, without any warning, literally be making life and death decisions that affect their shipmates and their ships. Look at just these two examples-the USS Cole and the heroic efforts to save the USS Samuel B Roberts when it hit a mine....it was the fundamentals learned at RTC and at BS21, the constant training in damage control, in fighting fires and flooding that saved those ships and limited to loss of life. My daughter served on, and my son serves on aircraft carriers, and I want those sailors in charge of ordnance, and aircraft fuel and especially the nuclear reactors to be focused on their jobs.  My son works on the flight deck a lot....I want those aircraft handlers to know what they are doing and to prevent aircraft from going awry- I want therm focused on their job.  And that holds for the thousands of other sailors on those ships.  This period at RTC is training for them- it is also training for you to learn to deal with it, to support them, and to get used to the fact that when at sea you might not hear from them very darn often....it's part of being associated with the Navy. Because of deployment schedules and leave issues, by son and daughter have not shared a Christmas together since 2004----it's part of the deal.....

....and don't forget...."Hurry up and wait"!!!!....also a big part of Military life...LOL!

I try not to be selfish in my letters i always try to stay postive. In every letter i always remind her how much im proud of her, im here to support her and how much I love her, shes my world. i understand that ever second of everyday is stressful and shes going threw hell, ive gotten over not being able to see her, and trust me she is very very home sick shes just doing a good job and pushing throught it. When she sent me the first set of letters she dated them she wrote one every night to me from the day they got there bunks. I could see she was ready to quit and never go back and i told her before she left if she decides to quit no matter what happens i will always be in support of her no matter what happens. I even texted her that when she got off the plane for RTC and we had a short phone call before she walked into the USO and she was gone. 2 weeks ago before i got letters her DIV earned the phone call home and she was very sad that no one answered but was over joyed when i answered my phone the second time around she called and left a voice mail and i hated my self for that and i still do. I held my phone in my hand and waited and waited than she called again. I understand it boot camp and they break you down but when she told me she was forgetting who she really was i wanted to cry, it took 1 letter from me and only me to keep her going, she was crying because they were hiding all the mail from them and she was first on the second pile they pulled out. Now I write a letter everyday and send one everyday i go to the post office on my lunch walk in and drop it in there box or at the desk if there is no line. I sometimes think maybe they are not giving them to her but than i think if thats the fact once they do she will have a stack all from me. I send 7 a week, and i send 2 on mondays and sometimes a card in the middle of the week that usally counts as letter because i write in them a short note. One thing I put in my letters I tell her everything I do during the day, what i did at work what i saw if anything happened. Than i say if i tell her if i go out with friends. I also remind her of her gift that i bought her for her graduation i wish i could make it but i unfortunately can not due to having throat surgery 2 days prior to her graduation, if she would of started her Pdays and training days a week earlier i would of been on a plane to go watch it with her parents. Im send her gift with her mom.  at the end of every letter i tell her goodnight and remind her of how proud i am and i tell her i love her again.

your such a sweet person keep her spirits up she obviously joined for a reason she knew what she was doing so keep lifting her in your prayers and dont let her quit no matter what because after its said and done we dont want her to blame anyone tell her the first coupke of weeks is the sucking part til they form up in divs and make friends it will sure get sooooo much easier also it takes a longer time to process out in ship 5 if anyone quits for example her div will graduate before she will even step foot out of bc I heard this alot of times from past folks just fyi

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