Son got married in Vegas..needs to get out. Please Help!

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Permalink Reply by PT Moore on January 4, 2012 at 4:01pm

Best thing is to tell him to get his stuff, everything that he can get out of the house, put it in storage, get a room at the barracks, and file for Divorce, 'Yesterday'. He needs to break all ties with her. I'd advise him not to speak to her 'AT ALL' except through a lawyer, (she'll try to jerk his chain, needs to hang out with shipmates to cover his 6).

     I ran into some problems and used a lawyer back in 85', Michael Turk. He had his office up off Clairmont Mesa. He was EOD, got out and got his law degree. He did me right.

 

Permalink Reply by Russell on January 4, 2012 at 4:02pm

Sounds like a worst nightmare. It would seem like there should be some resource (quasi military) that is knowledgeable about this type of scenario. If the girl was over 18, it would be difficult to know what military issues might come up.  From what I've read, divorce/annullment seems to be somewhat common with the SW guys.

It would be great if you could post an update - No matter how proud we are of our sailors, we also know that they may have a hard time keeping their pants zipped (or buttoned).

 

I'll ask my lawyers if they know any ex JAGs.

 

 

Permalink Reply by Tony on January 4, 2012 at 4:21pm

Russell, PT

 

Certainly the worst nightmare imaginable...We have this huge tight knit family where he has dozens of aunts, uncles and cousins and we find this crap out on Facebook. He is 23 and she is 26. She's been married, divorced from a marine, no job etc etc...My boy gotta be the one to get caught up.

He's with his Navy SW buds now and she is pinching him for the marital allowance now or she will go to his command..Which he does not need!!

 

This girl is the plague of Coronado and just wants a paycheck...I am researching lawyers now or trying to see if there are any onbudsman(?) that he can talk to. There has to be some reachable legal help for these boys. I'm glad everything worked out ok for you PT.

Permalink Reply by RyeJim on January 4, 2012 at 5:34pm

It could be a lot worse.  --At least there isn't a child involved.  I recall a situation in Saint Thomas, USVI, where a Coast Guardsman got into a situation with an island girl.  As soon as his CO found out about it he was transferred within hours--no forwarding information available.  My guess is the Navy has a long history dealing with "Frog Hogs".  Although I've never personally heard that phrase before. While she is using the threat of going to the Navy, I would think they might be a great resource in such matters.  At this point in his training , they have one hell of a lot more invested in your son than she does. 

 

 

 

Permalink Reply by Tony on January 4, 2012 at 5:41pm

Point well taken RJ...He's kinda stuck in telling his commander or trying to just get through it. I told him he has to mention it and that it wasnt what he thought and he wanted out and nothing to do with her. This way he may null and void any report she may have that follows his. It will be total devastation if he falls short a few weeks after what he just endured after 2yrs of training. Hope I didnt burn out all my prayers!!

Permalink Reply by Ken283 on January 4, 2012 at 6:51pm

Did his command know he was going to Vegas to get married?  Vegas is about 25 miles outside of the distance they are allowed to travel without taking a leave.  If they were aware, he should tell the jump school chief.  This school is outside of sqt and he might have a better chance of getting help w/o all the brass finding out.

Permalink Reply by Tony on January 5, 2012 at 7:37am

Yes, I certainly see the point Ken and I will inquire. I dont think he was too proud and let anyone know, so I'm guessing they didn't know. Is it better they know? Think I'll get a NV lawyer in on it today...can't play around at this stage man, i'm way overdue to flip out here but i'm trying the "cooler heads prevail" approach.

Military lawyer yesterday was telling me that her cut would be 1/3 his gross pay each pay check. He said he didn't have to pay unless his command advised him to pay, but it will give her less to cry about and cause problems.

Stay tuned!

Permalink Reply by Tony on January 6, 2012 at 8:45am

Does anyone have names of any good military lawyers in the San Diego to recommend for my son's annulment/divorce ?

I left a few lawyer messages last night but any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

 

Does anyone know if there is someone the boys in NSW can reach out to for legal matters?

 

p.s. All my thoughts and prayers to all the families and victims of the recent tragedies in the community. My son was originaly classed and remained close to the brave young man who had the accident. Please keep the prayers going!! They need them.